Courtney #genz #parents #parentsoftiktok #therapist #therapy #apology #sorrymom #sorrydadĢ.7K Likes, 27 Comments. Thanks for being here, I’m glad you exist. Psst, don’t forget: You’re a HUMAN first, and your unconscious is showing.

In my opinion, forced apologies are really just a way to make someone feel shame and/or humiliation as a form of punishment.

**Keep in mind: I do not endorse apologizing if you don’t mean it and I do not endorse forcing someone to apologize. Even if your ability to choose to apologize is difficult, you can at least choose to start working on it and to be better each day. One of the difficulties with apologizing to parents for your behavior is that if the behavior was partly developed in childhood as a result of mirroring your parent, there’s also this deep upset (and often deeeeep rage) that DOES blame them for how you act. And, it’s really important that YOU stay true to who you are and how YOU want to show up in the world. Let’s breakdown the aspects of each of these apologies: BAD apology: * Say sorry like you don’t mean it * Blame them for your behavior * Don’t state you’ll do anything different next time GOOD apology: * Say sorry like you mean it * Explain what was going on for you that caused the behavior * Empathize with how it made them feel * Explain how you will work to improve/change the behavior next time * Ask for forgiveness It can be really easy to not give respect or compassion to parents who haven’t given the same to you in the past. I know this and I’m working to be better, which includes apologizing when I’ve been hurtful.

I haven’t been the best daughter at times. I’ve realized that I’m in control of my relationship with my parents on my end. Over the last three years, I’ve done a lot (and I mean A LOT) of inner work. I chose certain family behaviors, labeled them with this description, and completely bagged on them. Let’s break these down ⬇️… First, let me say that I absolutely jumped on the #t #toxic rend when I started on social media.

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